DOR - Now What? Is there happiness beyond BUD's?

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Permalink Reply by diane {Shawns mom} on October 9, 2008 at 3:35pm

UNR-Joyce.....you may want to seek some advice from her..
good luck to you and your sailor
xoxoox

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Permalink Reply by Under the Radar Mom on October 9, 2008 at 4:02pm

Thanks - Joyce and I have talked - She is a good source and had great perspective. :)

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Permalink Reply by Mary, Proud Mom of Nick on October 9, 2008 at 5:28pm

I was going to point you to our Joyce as well - wishing the best for your son!

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Permalink Reply by Sheila Clark on October 9, 2008 at 6:07pm

I know this sounds stupid, but what does DOR stand for?

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Permalink Reply by diane {Shawns mom} on October 13, 2008 at 2:42pm

Sheila, NO question here is ever stupid.... LOL
xoxoxoxo

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Permalink Reply by Jackie on October 10, 2008 at 6:32am

I'm so sorry to hear this he was doing so well. Hopefully he will find another job in the Navy that is as rewarding to him. Can he go SWCC ? that would at least put him with the seal units. Hugs to you!!!

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Permalink Reply by Molly Molly Fo Folly on October 10, 2008 at 9:06am

Under the radar ~ Make sure he knows how proud we are of him for taking on BUD/s,that is something not many atempt to do and that deserves some credit !
He will find his path in the Navy :)
And whats nice is now he knows more about the jobs he will be going for !

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Permalink Reply by Under the Radar Mom on October 10, 2008 at 2:47pm

Thank you Molly,
He DOR'd during hellweek. Physically he passed all the required tests to get to hellweek. There is no shame, just regret for making an impulse decision in a moment of doubt. His biggest regret is that he has to leave his buddies who he has really bonded to. I am so damn proud of him. He is strong, and will be an asset for the Navy no matter what. My big concern is that he will end up with a job at the bottom of the barrel and be miserable. He has done his homework, and he has a plan and knows what his rights are. He is ready to move forward so he can come back. He went in yesterday, and the computers were on the fritz so nothing happened. Today he is telling me that everything is closed because its Friday, and it is a 3 day weekend. This is the part that is driving me nuts.
One thing I have learned is that the list of open jobs comes out at the beginning of the month. At this point, he might as well wait another 2 weeks until the new list comes out if what he wants is not on this months list.
On a positive side, he scored high on the ASVAB, that he pretty much qualifies for all the jobs out there. It gives him lots of choices.

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Permalink Reply by Molly Molly Fo Folly on October 10, 2008 at 2:54pm

Oh that is good news that he may have a bunch of choices because of his ASVAB. I also like the idea of waiting for the start of the new month to get many choices.
As for leaving his buddies ~ Yeah that happens all the time. You leave your BC friends, your school friends, your ship family when you move duty stations. That is a very hard one to get over :(
Give that sailor a big hug from his navy mom Molly :) Just making it to hellweek is impressive

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Permalink Reply by karen sweatt on October 10, 2008 at 4:08pm

Ouch..feel your pain..my son is in the same position....I love our country..and am honored that my son wants to serve it...but they sem to get screwed around

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Permalink Reply by C from T on October 11, 2008 at 11:21am

And if they have a back up on their contract they shound go there right??? But that is not happening. I think if someone has gone thru that much training and hard hard work and for some reason does not make it thru, they should place them somewhere that the training they have already recieved gets put to use. Why waste all that time and money you spent to train them? They must have done well on their ASFAB test and PST's to get where they are right? The Navy does not NEED to take someone who made a 89 on their ASFAB and put them to work chipping paint off a ship.

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Permalink Reply by Jackie on October 11, 2008 at 11:45am

I agree, This is why I think the Navy is loosing so many bright young people today. They do not retain a great number of people after their first enlistment ,because these young people do not feel the military is making the best use of their time and efforts. It is really to bad. Most go in and get the schooling and take into the private sector. Much more was done when my husband and I were in to try to keep you in.

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