How to tell mommy.

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Permalink Reply by Linda 424 on February 1, 2009 at 1:30pm

Hello Chris: My son Adam started out to sign up as a boatswain then changed to MA. I can say - follow your heart!!!! Adam chose to change before signing up because he really wanted to be a police officer. It was very hard for him to get thru A school. As I Understand The Navy Promotes Education - So Maybe If You Choose Later To Go MA? Being a mom that was really close to my son - It didnt make a difference to me what he wanted (Of course parents have our ideas, but we also want our kids to be happy). I agree the best thing you can do - it be honest. Take your mom out to a special place and just talk openly and honest from your heart. You sound like a really great person. I wish you the best and stay in touch here. We would love to encourage you through boot camp and A school. From A Mom That Cares!!!

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Permalink Reply by Tim Talbott on February 1, 2009 at 2:42pm

I think the best thing for you to do is be honest and upfront. What you have written in this post is EXACTLY what I would tell me parents. I think they will respect you more for it. You also can change your job once you are in the Navy after a period of two years. You can also explain that to your parents. I think your mom would be more disappointed by not telling her.

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Permalink Reply by Christine on February 1, 2009 at 3:30pm

You're young. Go in the Navy do what YOU want. You may not want to be a police officer after your time is up, you may even want to make career out of the Navy. This experience may open up a lot of different doors for you.

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Permalink Reply by A Proud Texas Mom on February 1, 2009 at 4:41pm

You know that there are MA's on the aircraft carrier's too. My daughter is a fire fighter on the USS George Washington, stationed in Japan. They set sail again in May for nine months. If you want to talk to a Navy fire fighter I can put you in touch with her. Way your options, make your decision and explain to your mom how you feel and why. She will be proud of you and respect you for being honest with her. She just wants the best for you, it doesn't always come across that way (at least between me and my daughter anyway) but it is. She will be proud of you what ever your decision is. But she would be hurt if you didn't tell her.
Carol

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Permalink Reply by Simone on February 1, 2009 at 4:56pm

Chris, I love your heart for your mom. It is what will pull you through all your decisions now and in the future. Everything you stated in your discussion is exactly what you need to say to her. It is perfect. I'm reading it and being a mom, myself, I was totally behind you all the way. Memorize this and tell her just like you have said it here. Your reasons are solid. Your goals are clear. You have a plan. And it's a good one. She will come along side you in her time. Just give her permission to take her time getting use to the change of plans, which trains her well for being a Navy mom, because believe me, we have to get use to change in a big way. It seems to be a daily thing. Actually, not, but it feels that way at times. The Navy is lucky to have you. And we are lucky to have you serving our country. Thank you for wanting to serve on our aircraft carriers. My son-in-law is currently serving on a carrier and it is truly the adventure of a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Ashley on February 1, 2009 at 6:53pm

My mom asked me to sign up for the website. I'm a DC (Damage Control) like a firefighter with maintenance. You need to weigh your choices. Unless you love to paint and clean you might want to steer away from any kind of BM (Boatswains Mate) really look into the rates they have in the navy. dont let the recruiters sell you. it's their job to. Do some research on what job really interests you and try and look beyond the information your recruiter gives you. Always remember that the navy will never hand you anything you have to take it for yourself.

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Permalink Reply by Emily on February 1, 2009 at 7:00pm

Chris, the ABH also stands for Almighty, Brave and Handsome...............tell your parents what you told us. My brother was an ABH (right out of high school) on a big deck Amphib (Tarawa), he parked jets and airliners and even drove Topgun film crews around NAS Miramar before it became a Marine Base. He even saw the world on an air craft carrier as a first time dad. He discovered he didn't like being away from his family so after ten years in the Navy he became a courier for FEDEX and loves what he's doing. He still misses the Navy but is glad he moved on. My point is that you will do what is right for you in the long run and only your gut can tell you that.

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Permalink Reply by Ken's Mom on February 1, 2009 at 7:07pm

Let her know how upset you get when she is mad, then tell her it is her choice to support you or not. Life is way to short not to live!!!!!!!!!! Let her read your post that says it all!!!

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Permalink Reply by Anna on February 1, 2009 at 7:56pm

Dear Chris,
I am a Mom of a Chris also. He went in as an AO, did 4 years and got out. Wanted to get a job as a police officer but he didn't have a degree and enough law enforcement experience. He was going to put himself through the academy but couldn't get a guarantee of a police position. So he went back in the Navy and is now going to school for IS. My suggestion is to print out your post you made and maybe some of the comments you've received back. Show them to your Mom and tell her honestly what you want to do. Tell her about this website. We are all Moms and some Dads of sailors in every rate imaginable. We will be there to support your Mom and you every step of the way. It is your life, your job and your experience. You have to be happy in what you doing. You are still young, and some adults have changed their careers many times in their life. No one can tell you that what you choose today is what you will do for the rest of your life. I'm sure your Mom will be proud of you and respect your decision. But remember - you can't live your life for your Mom or anyone else - you have to do it for you.
God Bless You and your family through this decision-time.
Anna

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Permalink Reply by Barbara Georges on February 1, 2009 at 7:56pm

Chris I am proud of you for joining up. You have some ideas for the future but you want to open yourself up to new and various experiences. Listen you are young and believe me right out of high school not too many of us really know ourselves well enough to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives. This is your time to open yourself up and explore new options. You can always change ratings in time. You may find out that the navy is the thing you want to do the most for the next twenty years. Don't be afraid to talk to Mom and Dad we really can be an understanding. Tell Mom from me that all children do find their way it may just take a while. Have fun though it will not always be fun, work hard, and always live by the code. God bless and good luck. Barbara Georges

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Permalink Reply by diane {Shawns mom} on February 1, 2009 at 8:16pm

honestly is ALWAYS the best
communciation, open and honest. It always sounds easy, but certainly is not..
trust yourself
good luck
ooxoxoxo

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Permalink Reply by Joyce (Aprils Mom) on February 1, 2009 at 11:34pm

No matter what you choose as a field, your Mom will be proud of you regardless of anything. Right now is a different time in life, you're still home. Boot Camp in Great Lakes will change everything, believe me. And at graduation your Mom and Dad will see you, for the first time after a long while, as a strong man standing on his own two feet, able to make good decisions about where your life will go. You will have paid the price, and you'll be grown up in about a million ways. Your Mom will be incredibly proud of you- that's the only way this goes. You'll get a feeling after a while about what job you want to pursue- you'll choose what you love, after all is said and done. And who can wish for better than that.

Take care and stay safe. From a Navy Mom who knows what your Mom is feeling 100%.


Joyce (Aprils Mom)

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