I am so proud of my son but so sad

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Permalink Reply by Paula on November 12, 2009 at 12:12pm

I was in the same boat. My son left when he was 19 just, his PIR was Oct 4 2008. I cried EVERYDAY and more when I saw my middle son flipping out because he was leaving. My youngest was very emotional also but I was shocked that both of my older boys were in tears. my eldest kept reassuring them he was going to be fine and he will be back as often as he can and that we could visit where he goes. Unfortunately, money isn't overflowing right now. My sons PIR was UNBELIEVEABLE. I did not know when I was PROUDER, the day I brought him in this world or the day I watched my son march thru those hanger doors in full uniform standing above most (tall) when our eyes hit and he saw his Father & I and his brothers sitting there all together he made a gesture that we knew he knew how Proud we are of him. Their dad & I actually talk now too, I love all my sons and I so appreciate the bond that this has made between our family. Keep your head up high, write letters to him EVERYday and make them happy, tell him you miss & love him but chg it to a positive tone quickly. Believe me, I used to sit in my office and just cry. I thought that was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I worked with military for many years and was always the one comforting, but you know when it is your own flesh & blood it is a entirely different story. Honey you will go thru stages, they sound stupid but 98% of us did it. Just wait until you get to the stalk the mailman stage, boy will you owe him a GREAT holiday gift, lol.
I PM'd you my information in case you need to talk.
Paula, Proud Mom of a US SAILOR

Paula

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Permalink Reply by Navy Aunt (AF Wife) on November 15, 2009 at 3:02am

Paula, I just wanted to let you know that I thought your post was great. Please pass onto your son a big thank you for serving from me and my husband. Cindi

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Permalink Reply by lisa on November 12, 2009 at 4:30pm

i never thought about how it would affect my sons sibling. my son michael is 22 and is leaving jan. 11 2010. my daughter is 17 and my other son is 5. i think the he will take it the hardest because is really close to his big brother.

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Permalink Reply by Sandy D on November 12, 2009 at 6:22pm

No worries!!! NavyforMoms is the best place TO vent, because we're all in the same boat - so to speak (wink wink). Keep your chin up for your son and join the Kleenex Krew here when you need to. Find the groups that pertain to where your son is going (is he going into nuke school? engineering?) there's also groups for BC. The first few weeks will be really tough. They break the dependence they have on the outside and develop independence and teamwork with their fellow recruits. it gets better after the first couple of weeks. Don't feel too selfish, we ALL felt that way. happens everytime they come home and leave again. BUt find the groups that pertain to you, because it really is helpful and they all know how you're feeling. Big Hugs!

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Permalink Reply by Sandy D on November 12, 2009 at 6:28pm

Lisa - This website will give you lots of info, read through first and you can then show your little one things his brother is going to do. If he sees pictures, and has an idea of what a nice place his brother is going to, it may help reduce any anxiety he may feel.

http://www.bootcamp.navy.mil/

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Permalink Reply by Laurie B/San Diego on November 12, 2009 at 9:18pm

Hi Lori,

There is a "group" called" leavin for bootcamp" in November. I was able to connect with other moms in our area and it was nice to meet them in person at MEPS the day before they leave. It was a great support. I would encourage you to join that group. I hope this helps. Our son left on Tuesday (11/10) Be sure you go to MEPS and watch him swear in. I think as you know...time flies bye as our children grow and I would imagine the next 2 months will be the same. Best wishes!!!! (Try to refer to yourself as "proud momma Lori instead of sad momma") :)

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Permalink Reply by Navy Aunt (AF Wife) on November 15, 2009 at 2:59am

Rest assured you are in the right place to cry, brag, laugh,listen and share. There is always someone on here to listen to your concerns and give you some advice. Lori, you are not a selfish person nor are you an awful person. It is hard to let go even when you know that it's the right thing to do. Your son is going to need a lot of support from you and you'll be getting a lot of support from your friends on this site. Don't despair, because boot camp won't last forever and as the days go by it will get a little easier. Cindi Navy Aunt (AF Wife)

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