Hello All, I am hoping you all can help me understand this new world I have stumbled into. I met and fell in love with an officer while he was home on leave and before I knew it he was headed back to base and deployed a week later. I know nothing about the Navy. I looked for books that would explain things like the steps from boot-camp all the way to becoming an officer and how your rank changes from there, as well as the hierarchy and lingo, but it does not seem that one exists. Does anyone know of a good comprehensive resource that will give me basic information about the Navy so I don't have to pester my sailor with a ton of questions? I thought about going into a recruiter but I think I would feel pretty silly since I don't have any interest in enlisting, just a naive GF who has a ton of questions. And calling the family services (or whatever its called) also seems silly since I am not family.
Also, there seems to be a lot of info and conversations about BF who are entering boot camp or A school (whatever that is) but I am wondering if anyone has ever been in my position - starting a new relationship with someone who has been in the Navy for almost 15 years? If so, do you have any advice? He does not currently have access to a phone and the internet is questionable depending on where he is so I only get emails from him a couple times a week. This is really hard since I spend a lot of time thinking about him and there is so much I want to say but I don't want to overwhelm/smother him by sending daily emails. His emails are pretty short in comparison to mine - is that normal? I mean he is a guy and I know they aren't as expressive as we are but I cant tell if its because he just doesn't have the time or energy or if I am throwing too much at him at once.
Sounds like he's on a sub (you don't have to confirm that). Ask him if he can get you in touch with the ombudsman, the volunteer spouse who is the family liaison. Just being in the information loop would be reassuring to you.
Short emails are normal, he's busy/tired/and other people want to use the computer. When he's deployed, communication can be very frustrating, and will be a different style for every situation, for every couple. Hang in there.
A school is how enlisted sailors learn the basics of their job. I guess that's the type of detail you won't know without experience or chatting. Keep asking, we'll answer.
I don't have a good suggestion for a book, but there's plenty out there and I'm sure someone here has ideas for you.
Like Anti M said, if you can infact get in contact with the Ombudsman they should be able to get you 'Sea Legs'. It comes in short book form or CD and it just answers some basics of Navy life. That would probably be a good place to start.
Short emails are very common. Mostly because thats just men and then because they are very busy. Just one of those things :)
Sounds like a great place to start - thanks for the advice ladies!