To all the sailor girlfriend's out there--Does anyone ever feel like the loneliness is so overwhelming...

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Permalink Reply by Chelsea on February 25, 2009 at 9:22pm

My boyfriend left a week ago and it is really hard. As most of you have said, we were together all the time.....and you never thought about how much time exactly until he's not there at all. Then it's like whoa....what do I do with all this time....I get sad mostly at night when i finish writing a letter and in the morning when I wake up and I roll over and he's not there. That is the hardest part. But I focus on work and try to keep busy with hobbies like puzzles and cross stitching. Oh! and i'm starting a Navy scrapbook too! Hang in there everyone! I'm sure it will get better!

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Permalink Reply by Lauren Braun on March 11, 2009 at 5:03pm

I know how you feel..... my boyfriend just left a week ago... can eat or sleep.... oh it hurt10x more when i knew he couldnt sleep for 2 days. i didnt sleep ether. i didnt want to do anything or go any were but the friends that truly were there for me wouldnt let me mope around and then in due time i wouldnt let myself mope around. i took it as daniel is becoming a man now. he wanted to do this so i need to be proud of him. also take this to my advatige. if we make it through this, we can pretty much make it through anything. so go out with your friends and have fun, worry about yourself (in moderashion you still should write or what not) always think of him in you desishions you make durring your day but dont let it drag you down let it bring you joy.

Always
<3
Lauren

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Permalink Reply by Erin (wife of Michael, AAAO) on March 24, 2009 at 12:45pm

I can totally relate to that feeling. My boyfriend graduates in one month from today, actually and it feels like it's been forever! I guess you have to keep telling yourself that this is not permanent--boot camp doesn't last forever!

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Permalink Reply by Olivia Seeley on April 19, 2009 at 12:54pm

you don't sound crazy at all i feel like that sometimes... having someone you love gone for a lon g time is def. hard..

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Permalink Reply by Deena( G/F of Augie DIV 931) on April 24, 2009 at 7:26pm

my boyfriend just left on monday for bootcamp.. i feel so lost already without him here. I try and keep busy and think about the positive things that are going to come out of this, and the way he will look in this sailor's uniform. The seperation is extemely hard.. and not getting that letter yet to know he's ok is the hardest for me. I know how you feel.. I try and stay positive and strong for him and us.. so maybe you might do that for your boyfriend also.

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Permalink Reply by Mayra (bf Div. 234) on May 15, 2009 at 11:24pm

hi i noticed u said ur bf left apr 24, mine left may six and it sucks.. i was just wondering when u got ur first letter from him...

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Permalink Reply by Sani Proud fiance of a US Sailor on May 28, 2009 at 8:50pm

Oh yes girl. I can def relate. I have never been apart from my boyfriend this long and this is like death right now. Hang in there and look forward to after PIR. its the only thing keeping me going.

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Permalink Reply by Katie Montgomery on June 3, 2009 at 7:59pm

I can deffinately relate to that. I feel like that almost everyday and it gets really hard sometimes. But then I remember that he wouldn't want me to just mope around all day. And then when you get to see him for graduation you realize that all of that pain you go through is totally worth it. For me writing letters has been a God send. Just being able to write them and know that they're helping to get him through everything really helps me out too. He's told me how much they help and when I got a letter it would always make my week. Jason graduated from boot camp on the 29th and even though he's in A school now and can call on a regular basis he would still like me to send letters because with a phone call you can forget the conversation. Like what exactly was said, but you have letters forever. And with letters they can tell that you've actually sat down and thought about them. Jason's told me so many times that that feeling of being needed really helps and you should look at it the same way. When you get a letter, you know that he's been thinking about you and that he hasn't forgot. Hope I could help. Stay strong and remember that even though it hurts sometimes, you have to live your life too.

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Permalink Reply by Josh'sNavyGirl on June 10, 2009 at 11:45pm

Heck yeah! I feel he's gone in pretty much every aspect of my life right now. Sleeping, exercising, stressful times, happy times, out with friends, cooking...I think if we get through them being gone in boot camp, we'll be able to do the rest. We'll be able to talk on the phone, internet, and go see him. There's this quote I know that keeps me going... "In order thats he may give her hand with dignity, she must first be able to stand alone." Another one is "We wither make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves stronger. The amount of work is the same." I have both of those quotes written in dry-marker on my bathroom mirror. When I see it several times a day, it uplifts me and make me remember his words that this is just temporary, and we'll be together again soon in the future. Look at it as something to look forward to. I'm working on getting back into excellent shape and being steady so that when he sees me he'll be loke.. whoah, this is my girl and this is what I have to look forward to when I come home.... if you ever need to talk....

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