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Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
How was your Thanksgiving? Who had the honors of cooiking?
You've been on my mind, how are you doing? Feel any better? My prayers are so with you.

I cooked just for the 5 of us. My older daughter's girlfriend joinmed us.
Let me know how you're doing.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
This a new, a limit on words here. This is part 2, the first part is below this message.

When your daughter does call, you need to be strong and talk positive to her and cheer her on. If she knows or suspects what's going on with you, she'll be worried. Her mind will be on you and not what she's training and learning.

If she fails on her tests, because of her lack of concentration, how is that going to make you feel, knowing she was worried about you, instead focusing on herself.

This is HER TIME, not yours! She is working hard on her future. You know how you raised her. Your love and upbringing is in her heart. It would be the same thing, if she was away at college.

This is HER TIME, to grow up to be the woman you raised her to be. You keep worrying about her, we all do, that's a mother's nature. But there is a limit, cut the apron strings, and let her do what she needs to do, grauate Boot Camp.

This is what she wanted to do, her heart is in this. Please, don't hold your daughter back, with your unneccesary worrying. You'll get sick, for no reason, and she'll fail Boot Camp. She might throw this in your face, if she fails. Please, I have seen this happen already, I don't want the same thing happening to you. There's no reason for all this. Please calm down.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
Please, don't mix that combination, that's suicide. If you can possibly do without one, for your own life's sake, I'm serious. That is way too dangerous that combination.

You have to calm down, you're making yourself deathly sick. I told you, you need to beleive me, your daughter is fine and safe. Her phones calls are limited, and earned now. It's not her fault that she's not calling.

Once she graduates, she can call you every day. If you continue this way, your nerves will eat you up alive, and there's absoulutly no reason for that.

Right now, your daughter is working hard, training, doing class work, and studies. She does not need to be worrying about you or anyone else right now.
It's her time only, this is for her and her future, whether she makes the Navy her career or not. She benefits either way.
This is new, I have to continue this on the next message.
Love,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
I just added you as my friend, you need to accept it. I was thinking of you the past few days, and couldn't remember the name you used for this page.

I warned you about that first letter. The screaming in the face does evenualy stop. I hated that part too. All the recruits do get screamed at in the face, but only for a couple of weeks, to toughen the kids up.

When Kim wrote me about that, I kept encouraging her, and telling her not to show emotion, don't cry. It's difficult at first, anything new is. Your daughter will toughen up, like the rest of the recruits.

Then another thing they are taught is to focus. While at attention, this is what happened with Kim's Commanding Officer, the Officers told jokes. The recruits had to not break into smiles or laughing, they had to stay focused.

After they are trained with doing things the Navy way, like keeping their bed and barracks in Navy style perfection, and learn the focusing, the screaming does stop.

Just keep encouraging your daughter, and tell her "do not cry, and she can do this, it's only for the short time in Boot Camp, it's not forever" , things like that.
I had to write letters like that for a couple of weeks. Then finally Kim wrote me to stop encouraging her, and she's fine.

Watch, I give it two weeks, and your daughter will be writting to you in Navy lingo, and tell you what she learned, with excitement in her tone of writting.

Your letter to her was great, that's what she needed to hear, that your supporting her in her decision. I know it's eating you up inside. I cried too after reading Kim's first letter. Your daughter knew the schedule of getting up 3 AM starting her day, and what was expected. For the exception of the yelling, it is in the Navy manuel, she didn't go in blindly. Now she's doing it, it's a different story! HAHA!! She will get into the rountine and the screaming does stop, probably soon.

Christine, please and I do press on this, stay in touch with me and other Navy moms. We help one another get through Boot Camp We all went through this. It is hard on us, I know it's eating you inside, so please hang in there with us. All of us here will help you through this.

And yes, Kim had the blisters and bruises. The recruits are doing things they never done before, climbing ropes, running, all forms of exercizing, and different physical activities, so they get bruised and blistered. When they start improving in what they are doing, the bruises and blisters do heal.

Remember when your daughter was young, and saw the doctor for shots, didn't you hold back your tears when she cried, or she got hurt, you had to hold your emotion, to be brave for her. You need to do the same again, be brave for her, that "stiff upper lip", by encouraging her on, " You can do it, don't cry, be strong, it's only a few more weeks, show the guys your not a weak little girl".

The girls have to be as tough as the guys. A Sailor is a Sailor, there's no gender jobs! HAAH! With your encouraging words, and please don't tell her that your worried or crying, please. Hold that in, and she will be determined.

Don't tell her of any sad news going on at home. Just keep pushing encouraging words to her.

I had to do all this myself last year with Kim. The first missed holidays are hard, I'm on my second missed birthdays and holidays without Kim. There's a good change, on Thanksgiving, your daughter will call you. Same thing, don't let her know your crying, please.

You can do this, with your encouragement to you daughter, like I wrote, in two weeks, not the next letter but, about 2-3 letters from now, her tone in her writting will become more relaxed and cheerful, and you'll feel a whole lot better when you see the difference in her letters.

You can do this, please, please, please, keep in touch here with me and other Navy moms. We'll cheer you on , as you cheer your daughter on! HAHA!
Please stay in touch . You and your daughter are in my prayers.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
I know, it's nerve wrecking, just seeing it in the mail, then opening it. Was it just the Form letter, or did you receive her first letter as well? Usualy the letter is the following week, but I read sometimes it could come earlier.

Just in case I mistook you reading the Form letter along with her own long letter, remember that first letter sometimes is sad. Don't panic. The letters do get more uplifting.
After the third week, you may get a phone call. You'll have 3-4 the entire Boot Camp.

I know, seeing the handwritting does give some relief. So Jan 8 is the big date, great. Now you have her address and Division/Ship numbers, you can write to her all you want! HAHA! Remember no musical. Once I heard a mom tell me her son got into trouble with that. So I wirte moms about that.

Remind me, around Christmas, about the graduation coming up. I love sharing information on graduation. After Christmas, I'm going down to Virginia. My daughter Kim is having a baby, and her due date is Jan 2. I'm so excited! HAHA!

Wait until you hear your daughter start talking with confidance and telling you what she's done that week, with her accomplishments. HAAH!

Kim had trouble keeping up at first. She told me she might be placed in a Division that graduates at a later date. That's the worst that could happen. She did catch up and graduated on the expected day.

Let me get going You stay well.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
I'm so happy to hear that, I told you every day will get a touch easier.
When you finally get te Form letter, the couple of sentences on the back, you'll feel better seeing your daughter's handwritting. I felt like I could breathe again when I saw Kim's.

I was afraid what she wrote, I was afraid of reading "Help get me out of here!" HAHA!!!
No, she just wrote that she'd write me in two weeks. I don't know when she wrote that, because I recieved her first letter the following week. Then a phone call the following weekend.

Like I said through, that first letter was heartwrenching. That's why I warn moms that, and so far, I've been right on that, with everyone who writes back.

The letters all get more uplifting. Wait until your daughter starts writting in Navy lingo. That's fun trying to figure out.! HAHA! You're going to drop, when your daughter writes about her shooting a gun!! HAHAA!! Your quiet, shy little girl!! HAHA! I asked Kim if she keeps up her shooting practice, she said they all do.

Every mom I write to, everyone all say that their child loved Boot Camp. Kim told me that too after her graduation. They call it a summer camp. But the first few weeks are tough, anything new is.

Your daughter may even gain some weight. They all say the food is delicious! HAHA!

You want to laugh, after Kim sent me that heartwrenching letter, I kept encouraging her. By the third letter, she wrote me to stop the encouraging and that she is going to graduate. She was determined to gradaute and she did. My little 5 foot nothing little girl. HAHA!

Our daughters are a whole lot mentally stronger than we give them credit for ! HAHA!
Kim shocked me, that's for sure.

Let me get going. Stay well.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara

Dear Christine,
Relax, she's fine. She can recieve mail. When you recieve the Form letter, probably next week, that has the information on the graduation. It will also have her address along with her Division and Ship number.

You can write to her as much as you want, once you have her address with her Division and Ship numbers. Don't send anything with a fragrance or music. Some Officers don't care for that.

Remember, just encouragement. Don't mention the grandmother. Let oma stay out of the picture.

Don't book any tickets yet. Your daughter has to go through so much training followed by testing. There's no guarantee of graduating. MOST IF NOT ALL RECRUITS DO GRADUATE, but there's no guarantee.

The graduation info on the Form letter is letting you know that her Division is graduating that day. It has nothing to do with any particular recruit. The Division has usualy 80 recruits in it.

Don't panic, I have no doubt your daughter will graduate.

Towards the end of Boot Camp, when she writes you about the test Battelstation, book your tickets. That does give you about a week prior to her graduating date, give or take.

To let you know, the airport there is O'Hara. Also, you will need a car, everything is far apart.

Battlestation is the final test, meaning your daughter passed everything else. The recruits have fun with Battlestation, and they do pass it. It's very rare if a recruit doesn't. If they don't, they retake the test before the graduation date.

The Navy wants the recruits to graduate..

Okay, you can breathe again. Your daughter will graduate, I have no doubt about that.

Before she does graduate, she'll call you about 3-4 times, The phone calls are now earned. Usualy after the first letter arrives, the third week, she'll probably call you.

Please stay in touch.
Take care and God bless,
Barbara