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Comment by AblueOK on October 3, 2009 at 9:55am

this a personal problem you need to contact her command and his army commad he should reported......if she is at boot camp then call her recuiter they can help you find the right phone numbers...

Comment by Anti M on October 3, 2009 at 9:56am

Sorry to hear of this.

No on the daycare. Daycare is set up by the individuals, it is not provided by the Navy. While there may be facilities on base, they are privately owned. While still in boot camp there is no way to know where she will be stationed, and until that time, no way to know what services will be available. Deployment is not the only concern; she will also have duty days, and will not always be able to take time for appointments and such. When she divorces, she will have to submit a Family Care Plan outlining who will take care of the child when she has duty, etc. Single parents don't get special treatment, it is very much a struggle for them.

Good luck with her situation, she has a hard road ahead.

Comment by AblueOK on October 3, 2009 at 9:58am

For more information about spouse abuse, child abuse, and substance
abuse among Army families, contact
Deborah Gibbs
Health, Social, and Economics Research
PHONE: 919.541.6942
E-MAIL: dag@rti.org

Comment by bjsh57 on October 3, 2009 at 10:52am

I really dont want to do anything right now. . She is safe at bootcamp and I want to talk to her first.I just wanted to have a plan for her.( He has a very hot temper and has a small arsenal of weapons and I need to know she will be safe)

Comment by Nate's Mom (Wendy) ;P on October 3, 2009 at 12:56pm

There is day care on the base..but my experience was it was always filled and waiting list. Each command has home day care list, you can get from an ombudsmen. In order to do day care out of you on base housing you must get certified through the base. I have always done this and you can really find some good people this way. Some of the people only baby sit certain hours so duty days will still be a problem. There are a few that do it all time day night. It is rare for those but they are out there. You just have to look. Still is a problem for Dr. appointments and being deployed. She has to show the Navy her family plan for these times. Best of luck to you and your daughter.

Comment by bjsh57 on October 3, 2009 at 1:22pm

Thanks to everyone who responded . I am just in shock that this has been happening to her!

Comment by AblueOK on October 3, 2009 at 1:25pm

IF HE HAS WEAPONS THE BOOT CAMP NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THIS NOW..... IF YOU KNOW SOMETHING THEN YOU MUST REPORT HIM .....

Comment by Kelly **gunnerJ's mom** on October 4, 2009 at 9:39am

bjish,
i would talk to someone at a center or hot line on the best way to approach the subject. i don't know how you found out about the abuse but am guessing it wasn't from her?? It's really hard for some women to come to terms about the reality and danger of abuse and if they have a child that's also a risk for her too. hopefully you can talk to her and give her some support if leaving him is something she is willing to do. having a plan in place when and if she chooses to do so as she's going to need that support. if you want to talk more please feel free to msg. me or add me as a friend, i have had family and a good friend who have been thru this, thankfully 2 left and are happier for it, one is in a bit of denial and won't leave, she has an infant daughter. so i know the frustration. take care!
i agree totally with alueok on the weapons deal, you don't know what he's capable of and do you know why he was discharged? does he have their child?

Comment by bjsh57 on October 5, 2009 at 6:56pm

When I say weapons he has a lot of hunting gear. He is not anywhere near bootcamp and He has no idea I know!

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