What am I going to do?

Comment by Irene.Kevin'sMom on June 20, 2008 at 3:16pm

Sara - I cannot imagine the rollercoaster your emotions are on right now. I am so sorry. I will pray that the Lord will bring you peace and security. Keep close to your computer and keep us all updated with you and how you're doing. We are all here to help and we want to support you in any way we can. In the meantime, enjoy the next couple days with your hubby. Remember that the same ticking of the clock that will count down the next 48 hours will also count down to the next time you have him home for good. Thank you so much for your service to our country. I don't care what anyone says, when someone is in the Armed Forces, their spouse and family serve right along with them. Your sacrifice is just as real as his is. I, for one, appreciate you for that and stand to applaud you. !!! {{{{BIG HUGS}}}} Irene

Comment by Jo on June 20, 2008 at 4:47pm

Hi Sara, my boyfriend is in Iraq right now. It has been a tough road. But we do it because we love them so much. I wouldn't be anywhere else but here for him when he needs me. If you have questions or need to just talk - feel free to PM me. My boyfriend will be home for R&R for 15 days around the 1st of July so I will be a complete mess myself when he goes back. Enjoy your weekend with your husband!

Comment by LynnDear on June 20, 2008 at 10:44pm

Sara, I had a son that has been in Iraq, who married this year. He has recently married 3 weeks ago to someone he went to bootcamp with in 2005. Now they both have orders to go to Iraq in January. I have a Navy son who is in A school studying electronics. I remember the happiness at having them home and then, so suddenly I realised how long it may be until I get to hug them again. It was like lightening just struck me. I knew that they were doing what they wanted and liked what they did. But it didn't fit my image of having my children all around me. And I didn't want their last image of me being red faced and tearful. Well it was. What you are feeling is so normal and real. And this site is incredible supportive and understand. You have family here also. Pick some friends, ask for help when you need it. For personal information, anything that you PM (private message) is not made available to the public to read. On this site, you can PM your friends. We have a group that I call Prayer warrior mom, and they appear right when you need them the most. You will see.

Comment by Steve's Mom on June 20, 2008 at 10:54pm

Sara, you can do this. There are some amazing Moms and Girlfriends that have reached out to you so far, I encourage you to foster these and other relationships with people who do know where you are comming from.
Hubby needs to see some tears to know you will miss him, and he needs to see your firm chin too so he doesnt worry as much while he is away. So let your self react to the situation.
You said you are normaly a strong person, and that is what I "see" when I read your post. Who would not feel a little overwhelmed, sad, depressed and scared in your shoes? Just the fact that you can reconize them and process them into words shows how strong you are. Hang tight and talk with us. Many here do understand.
Shell

Comment by Millye on June 21, 2008 at 8:54am

Sara,
As the mom of a Navy corpsman who has been to Iraq twice, once to Fallujah and once to Rawah near the Syrian border, with a wonderful group of Marines, I can tell you that you are in for one heck of a journey. The main thing is to hang on tight to your belief in God and your husband. As other moms have said, get with a group of people who understand where you are coming from, what you are going through, and can support you during this time. Have people around you who will pray with you, laugh with you, hold you when you cry, and above all to listen to you. You already are here on Navy4Moms, so see who your husband is deploying with. Get their wife's and parents' phone numbers and email addresses and talk to them often. Stay in touch with your husband, write him often, use motomail (www.motomail.com) to stay in quicker contact with him, and send him lots of care packages, both for edible goodies as well as fun items. Keep yourself busy and doing something productive for yourself as well. While my son was gone, we painted the inside of the house and grew a garden in the backyard. I took up walking and used that time for prayer each morning.

For now, though, share your feelings with him, but sparingly. Don't overwhelm him and overburden him right before he leaves. Before he leaves, the two of you can plan things out that he feels need to be done while he's away. And go out and do something fun- I don't know where you live, but find a park and take time to ride that canoe together or ride bikes together or anything to have a fun memory for the two of you to hang onto while he is gone. It will seem long, but before you know it, you will be planning Homecoming activities for his return. Please tell your hubby thank you for his service and we wish him good luck and Godspeed on his return back home.

Hang in there and talk to us. Feel free to PM me anytime. We're all here for you.
Millye

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