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Randy

Deep Story: lying recruiter left me looking bad and dumb

I joined the navy august 8th (physical test, chose job, and sworn in).. Since then I have been told that i have to attend my dep meetings which i tried my hardest to do. My recruiter swore that if i did not have a ride to my meetings then let him know a day before or atleast several hours before the meeting start which i told him the day before and he was fine with it.. So then the first thursday of september comes and im thinking that he's going to come and get me which i reminded him the morning of also. I waited and waited as 4 o'clock (the time of the meeting) passed. So i called him and i can really hear the other deppers in the background as i asked him why was he not able to come and get me.. his response sounded so fake as he said, "oh, umm.. the meeting is canceled". So it was just like whatever and i really believe him.. So september comes and the same exact thing happens as he said "the meeting was canceled". So then the meeting comes this month and for the first time i could not make it because of me having to watch my grandmother because of her health problems.. So then he says its fine and i can come in the day after, so then i came in the day after and he was out of the office for a minute so then the chief is in and he takes care of me.. he looks through my portfolio and says why havent i been to any meetings and i said that i tried to make them but did not have a ride and petty officer ____ said that it was canceled.. So then he ask the other 3 recruiters (petty officer ____ friends) and they said that it was a meeting.. so then he looks at me like im a liar and writes something down and say "i thought so and i need to get on top of my stuff" so then i step outside while the chief go to the restroom for a minute and my recruiter walks pass me and i asked why was i told that it was canceled if it wasnt and he wouldnt answer, he just kept asking what did the chief say.. so then a couple minutes later i come back in and my recruiter finds his self talking about me (callin me dumb) in front of his recruiter friends as i walk in.. it was just obvious.. so then they stop laughing quick and he just had a mad face.. so then i finish signing my monthly papers and say that im about to catch the bus home so then my recruiter says not to because he doesnt want me catching the bus (in LA).. he said this around 3pm.. he literally sat around his office joking around with his friends past 6pm which it turned dark already.. his friends/other recruiters then ask him why does he always leave his recruits sitting around like that when he says that hes going to take them home and he gets an attitude with them and really tells them to shut up.. so im still waiting for a little bit longer and he doesnt even bulge.. still sitting there talking about girls and joking around. so then i just get up, say "dep recruit rucker requesting permission to go ashore" and he says, "so you really going to walk home in the dark in LA" and i say yes and so i leave.. I just feel like i need to change recruiters and not have to deal with him because all he does is play around all the time.. i believe that his job is not that hard enough for him to be that lazy.. i cant really say anything because all the other recruiters are his friends and would take up for him and i also feel like im going to be the one looking bad if nothing is done.. its possible that i may switch to the army now..

This happened in Inglewood, CA

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NaVy GiRl15 Comment by NaVy GiRl15 on November 8, 2009 at 11:26pm
well the army is way worse i was in the army i joined in 2007 and i just recently found out like 2 weeks ago i went to meps and done all my stuff and then for some reason my army recruiter just disappeared and i never knew what to do or anything but not all the navy recruiters are bad he just needs to be turned in to someone outside the office and if you have phone bills it will show that you did call him then you wont look so bad and if u need to know anything or u need advice i will be more then happy to ask my recruiter for you!!! let me know if u need anything cause i am also in the dep program getting ready to ship out
Bea S. Comment by Bea S. on November 8, 2009 at 11:28pm
Randy, before you switch to Army, please try to find another recruiter. Try to get a family member to care for your grandmother when the meetings are schedule or girlfriend or just a friend. I grew up in LA. Take a bus and walk the rest of the way, if you have to. Your are going to be doing a lot of running when you go to boot camp. When you go to boot camp, someone else will have to step up and take care of your grandmother, it might as well start NOW. Take this as a learning experience. DON'T give up. Whatever you do, DON'T give up. Getting in and making the Navy a great career will be your best revenge.
Sherry James Comment by Sherry James on November 9, 2009 at 6:25pm
Hi Randy,

Is there any way for you to speak to another Navy recruiter? Perhaps in a different office altogether. It is ashame that this professional is NOT acting professionally, ie accountable, honest and time conscious. Is there a way for you to get a bus to the DEP meetings? It may also be a case where because of the greater desire for recruits to serve that you are being purposely discouraged in a way. If you want to serve then you may have to forge ahead with more intention.

Like Bea S said above, you'll have to ask for and get help with doing things. It takes a team effort in life so ask for help with what you cannot do and do what you can do, for example riding the bus to DEP Meetings. It shows initiative and that you're hungry and you want to earn your way. Personally, I do understand about caring for an ill/elderly family member but it is important for YOU to get the training and education available to you so that you'll have a bright future. I'm sure your family and your granny will understand this.

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