I joined this website so that I could get information to have some piece of mind while my SR is beginning her journey with the navy. I have kept my personal life pretty private so that I am not judged or kicked out of any groups because I do not want to lose the little piece of mind that I have left. But, lately I have been reading so many different things and I am driving myself crazy. I would like to explain my situation and if anyone can give insight I would appreciate it!
My SR and I were married on March 21st of this year. It is a same sex marriage and we do not receive any benefits (which does not bother us) and my SR is considered single. We raise my 4 year old son together. ( she has been raising him since he was 2) and we are in the middle of a second parent adoption. It was started before the navy and will hopefully be finalized after "A" school. So I am wondering will anything change after the adoption is complete? We were told by her recruiter that our son would be eligible for benefits!? My concern is what happens if she is stationed over seas after "A" school? I'm not considered a spouse but what about her dependent? Any insight on what our future may hold would be great. I was doing so well and now I am having a breakdown as I know we are getting closer to her receiving her orders!