Very Curious!!!!
I wanted to know how many moms out here have children that before enlisting in the Navy may have left home for college. The question I have is: When they left to boot camp were you more stressed than when they left for college or was it the same?
The reason I ask is because after my son graduated from high school about a year later he decided to go into the Job Corp. to learn a trade. He did not like it and came home after about five months. We had contact with Andre and in those five months he got to come home for a leave a few times. I was fine with him going to the Job Corp., I was not worried at all. Since he has been in boot camp this was stressful to me because it is wwwaaayyy more intense than college or Job Corp. as far as mentally and just the rigidness of boot camp. Andre PIR's on 12/05, however due to letters I have written and the way I have express myself through different means to Andre since he has been in boot camp, I recieve comments from his father and Andre himself saying "You didn't act like this when he/I was in Job Corp." like as if I didn't care and now all the sudden I do. I try to tell them there is no comparison between the two. So I am just wondering if any other mom experienced a child that was in or currently in boot camp left for some other event that did not stress them but they have been stressed with the boot camp thing.
Thank you to all who reply.
The reason I ask is because after my son graduated from high school about a year later he decided to go into the Job Corp. to learn a trade. He did not like it and came home after about five months. We had contact with Andre and in those five months he got to come home for a leave a few times. I was fine with him going to the Job Corp., I was not worried at all. Since he has been in boot camp this was stressful to me because it is wwwaaayyy more intense than college or Job Corp. as far as mentally and just the rigidness of boot camp. Andre PIR's on 12/05, however due to letters I have written and the way I have express myself through different means to Andre since he has been in boot camp, I recieve comments from his father and Andre himself saying "You didn't act like this when he/I was in Job Corp." like as if I didn't care and now all the sudden I do. I try to tell them there is no comparison between the two. So I am just wondering if any other mom experienced a child that was in or currently in boot camp left for some other event that did not stress them but they have been stressed with the boot camp thing.
Thank you to all who reply.
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Permalink Reply by navymomBonnie on
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Dear Tracy: My son is 22yrs old. He went to Fl to go to FIT to learn to fly planes, then 3 semesters later he decided he didn't want to do that and then went to Boulder, CO for college, then after one semester thereh is father said enough and pulled him home to CT to go to the local community college there. He spent 3 semesters there in a physical ed, trainer/coach program which is where he should have been all along but he needed those other experiences to help him realize that. All along, though, he never lost the desire to want to be in the navy SEALS. So he trained all the time, went to college and worked. Finally, he got word that they were sending him to boot camp. Luckily, his professors let him finish the semester early and earn the credits. I tell you all of this because each time he did something new I was always worried. This time it has been the hardest because at least when I was missing him before I could call his cell or email him. I have had one letter from him since Nov. 10th the day he got to GL. I know he is safe. They want him to succeed. It's in the Navy's best interest for that to happen. Some moms say it is good news if we don't hear from them because they are not hurt or injured. I hold onto that thought. Keep your chin up. Your guy is fine. If I can be of further comfort just holler.
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Permalink Reply by Lea on
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Hey Tracy! Garry, my sailor, spent two years in college. His sisters - both older - went to college 4 years each and graduated. Each time I left one of them in that dorm - I left unable to breath! However, I could talk to them on the cell phones, e-mail them several times daily! Also, college was not preparing them for a life that was "unknown" to me! A life I never lived! Though not trying to add more stress - a life of war! And for mine: a life of secrets!!! It is so different! Dad's love their boys - but it is oh so very different for mom's! And YES! BC is so much different and more stressful! So don't listen to others - and I hate to tell you, BUT there will be more of them! But ya know what? That PIR/Graduation will all be worth it! Oh, my gosh - just wait!!! As much more stressful as BC is - this is that much more exciting, prideful, comforting and just awesome!! My prayers are with you as you finish this stressful time. But know, it prepares you for their life - a wonderful life they have chosen! God Bless!
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Permalink Reply by Pen on -
My oldest son is currently a Junior at Ohio State and him going away to College
and I handled that fine it was exciting to help him pack and gather the things that he would need for his dorm room.. and that was three years ago. Casey going into the navy was way different , especially the no communication for as long as we did.... tore me up The College student was and is still communicative and calls emails, texts ..... I even understand the process that bootcamp is suppose to instill... My first husband was 5 years navy many years ago........ and we were married when he went thru bootcamp....we went thru 2 med cruizes and many small work up deployments
. But my thoughts and fears were very abundant with no communication from my youngest while in Bootcamp-- But I suppose the difference this was my child, I have protected and raised for all of these years.... and as I call the unkown the mama worries still haunt my dreams at night and I have to wake up and realize each day that I did my job with both of my sons and now its up to them and hopefully I gave them the morals and courage and strength to make each of their dreams. and goals come true..... I had to realize they grew up on me..... That has been the hardest lesson for me... but to answer your question yes BC is harder then sending them off to college.....
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Permalink Reply by MalaMama on -
This is 100 times more stressful. My son did two years at ASU before heading off to BC! The not knowing and the no contact is the worst. Hang in there....
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Permalink Reply by joann (patience mom) on -
WELL, AS A MOTHER AND THE MOTHER OF A DAUGHTER IT IS HARD ON BOTH COUNTS BUT I FIND IT WAS BETTER WITH THE MILITARY BECAUSE I FEEL SHE IS MORE SUPERVISED AND SOMEONE IS ALWAYS WATCHING BECAUSE HER GROWTH REFLECTS THEIR CARE AND WHEN SHE GRADUATES SHE WILL REPRESENT THEM.VERSES WHEN SHE WAS IN COLLEGEI WORRIED IF SHE WAS EATING AND COMING IN ON TIME.FATHERS NEVER FEEL AS PROTECTIVE AS MOTHERS.wHEN HE MOVES TO NEXT PHASE YOU WILL FEEL THE SAME BUT COMMUNICATION ALWAYS HELPS
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Permalink Reply by Carole on -
My son was in college for a couple of years before going into the Navy, but he dropped out. I was never stressed about him going into college, but going into the Navy - I mean - wow! All of a sudden their are these intense rules and the physical training and the no contact thing. I was so anxious for him. It was nothing like going off to college! Plus I never felt like he could get hurt at college, but most certainly you can in boot camp. Big difference!
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