Having a lazy child

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Permalink Reply by Kimberly K. on August 20, 2008 at 11:59am

Your comments made me laugh, LynnDear - Josh's idea of ironing was to throw his clothes back in the dryer. Every morning he'd be running the dryer with one shirt in it! Thank goodness for the USN!

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Permalink Reply by carols_kitchen on August 20, 2008 at 4:35pm

Sure we didn't have some kind of twins? We laughed so hard at the first letter ("up at 0200 to iron" "cleaning toilets") I thought we would die.

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Permalink Reply by James' Mom - Christine on August 20, 2008 at 11:57am

LOL!!!! OH Tracy!!! Do not worry at all!!! I just busted up laughing when you said, "... have to tell his twice to take the trash out or to make his bed or clean his room." Tell him twice?!?! Oh, I WISH all I had to do was ask Twice! .... my son was the best kid ever until he turned about 17... from 17 - 19 he just sat around playing video games too... never did any chores... barely spoke to me... argued all the time about "WHAT are you going to do with your life?" I worried constantly, cried all the time about it but here we are... everything is OKAY..... trust me... your son will be OKAY too...

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Permalink Reply by Michele on August 20, 2008 at 11:58am

Tracy

Funny!!! when my son was in Dep he would sleep in until about 1:00 in the afternoon, get up, ask me to cook him breakfast, of all things, then, maybe shower, watch some TV, listen to music and then go out with friends. I don't recall him ever taking out the trash or doing a dish, much less, Ironing? Ha Ha I thought, this ought to be interesting. I was sure that after he started BC that I would see him home in about 2 weeks. Turns out, he was leader of his ship and I can tell you first hand that he is a different kid. I am so proud of the responsible man my son has become. Believe me, your son will change. They all do. His shipmates will make sure of it as they are a team. I don't think our sons put their best foot forward for us, we don't demand it, Boot camp will!

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Permalink Reply by Tammy Banks on August 20, 2008 at 12:11pm

Hello, I know what you are saying, are you sure we don't have the same child because I would have sworn that you were talking about my son. he was in Dep for a year I bet he only ran maybe 6 times before he left on July 16th and that was all mostly the week before he left we kept telling him he was going to wish he had ran more and had done more push-ups, and cleaning he gets into trouble almost every day for not helping enough with the cleaning or whatever else they want him to do but, no he said he could handle it. well now he is so sore and sick and tired from doing all the things he said he could handle and is kicking himself for not doing more. he also got put back a week for running his mouth when told not to. but, anyway they don't listen they just have to find out on their own I guess but you can tell your son that he will be saying we were right,and that maybe he should have done something else besides just playing games. and also he might want to stop playing the games soon so he won't have too bad withdraws, but also tell him that boot camp is not the Navy my husband was in the Navy for 20 years and he loved it but, you really can't be to lazy being there, He might want to rethink it if he is to lazy, tell him in the Navy lazy could get you or your shipmates hurt or worse.
once he leaves its a long 9 weeks without a play station. but as far as advice like everyone kept telling me you have to let them grow up and let them make their own mistakes,

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Permalink Reply by Linda D-IA on August 20, 2008 at 12:25pm

Hi, Tracy- Yes they can change someone that is lazy. Let's just say that I didn't even know how to wash a load of laundry or fold my own clothes when I went in back in 1986. He will learn so much at BC and grow. He will become that young man (sailor) that will shine brighter than the noon day sun. You'll see and he'll be just fine. Linda D-IA

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Permalink Reply by Angel on August 20, 2008 at 12:41pm

Hi Tracy: My son too was LAZY!!If he didn't have plans he was either in the bed or gaming,he only got up to eat or leave.The Navy did change him he is more responsible now.Going through boot camp was what he needed Discipline.Your son will do fine,they will take care of him and you will be very proud when you see him at Graduation.

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Permalink Reply by Jacqueline Manning on August 20, 2008 at 2:11pm

And now we know why some Moms call RDC's assholes and mean. Imagine your frustration with your child and then magnify it 100 times. These RDC's dont have the luxury of letting them fail, if they fail as a sailor, someone could die. They have 8 short weeks to break down a person and build them back a stronger, more confident, well disciplined human being. One of the Divisions in our Training Group went through a "beat" which is the division leaders being punished for one of the recruits under them failing. They are made to watch as their buddies do Intense PT because of something they do wrong. You might think it is silly, to punish like that over clothes folded wrong, or a bed not made properly, but what they are trying to teach them is that once they become a sailor, their mistake could mean someones life. So your recruit will either learn real fast that lazy doesnt work in the Navy or he will be sent packing. Maybe all Moms should take RDC training??? LOL
On a lighter note my brother in law who was a RDC at Great Lakes for 5 yrs said, that 9 times out of 10 it was those who had the slow start in the beginning that would excell at the end!

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Permalink Reply by Cheryl T. on August 20, 2008 at 2:12pm

Tracy,
Trust me when I say it can be done!!! My son just graduated from bootcamp on Aug. 1st and I tell you I was and still am amazed at the change in my son. He was a bit lazy also....sleeping until noon everyday and staying up all night. He did however keep his room clean. He didn't do any other chores as I didn't really ask. On occasion he would surprise me with cleaning the house, but it was not very often. He is a great young man ,he was just lost at what to do with his future and now I see this has been a good choice for him. He would tell us bootcamp was hard and easy at the same time. The whole idea is to do what you are supposed to do and you will be fine. Don't worry Tracy as I know you will be so impressed with the change in your son after bootcamp. If there is anything else I can answer for you please ask. God Bless You!
Cheryl T

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Permalink Reply by Cat M on August 20, 2008 at 2:18pm

I have the same child. Hes funny, smart and articulate. Stubborn as a mule. Since his sister is in the Navy now, he talks more about going in. But I don't think he will be able to do it. Seriously. I am not sure they can yell enough in boot camp to make him do anything. I sure can't.

Other than the lazies, he is a great kid. Just frustrating!

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Permalink Reply by Shelley on August 20, 2008 at 2:23pm

Hi Tracy, It makes me feel good that I'm not the only mom that had to go through this with my son. There were times I thought he would never grow up! Nothing seemed to motivate him, but when he enlisted in the navy, I was hopeful . I prayed that he would find his niche in life. Now my son is in A school, and will graduate next week. I'm so proud of him and what he has accomplished! Hang in there, I promise things will get better!

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Permalink Reply by carols_kitchen on August 20, 2008 at 7:01pm

Congratulations on the upcoming graduation from A School.

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